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The Kadane-Ford family Christmas card: 2014

Once again there is only one picture of the four of us together. Here we are holding lemurs in San Diego.

Once again there is only one picture of the four of us together. Here we are holding lemurs in San Diego on a wish trip granted by the Rainbow Society of Alberta.

It’s been a year of travel, powder skiing and Game of Thrones bingeing (for Blake and me) in our household. In between all that fun we’ve managed some dog training, volunteering and, from time to time, parenting. Sometimes we mix dog training with parenting and it ends in some live entertainment we like to call Game of Bones (Piper takes her bone and runs from Bennett, Bennett chases Piper, Piper abandons her bone for a bigger bone, Bennett chases her some more, etc. Clearly, we need to hire a babysitter and get out more). But anyway. Here are some 2014 highlights for each family member:

Blake continues to devote an unbelievable amount of his spare time to mountain biking. He travelled to Moab for a biking bromance with three buddies in April, and followed it up with trips to Fernie, Kicking Horse and, most recently, Canmore for some winter biking. I knew he might have a problem when one night he came running over with an issue of Fat Tire Enthusiast to show me that his Giant Trance Advance SX was voted the best mountain bike in the galaxy by a panel of IPA-drinking gear heads experts. Also, the garage has been deemed unsafe for the Giant; it rests on a pedestal in our storage room.

Blake mountain biking in Moab.

Blake mountain biking in Golden, B.C.

When he’s not pedalling his baby, Blake trains our dog Piper. This consists of leashing her to a ski pole, fastening the pole to his bike and then riding while Piper sprints beside him. Oh wait, he’s actually also biking when he does this. When he’s not mountain- or dog-biking, Blake works on puzzles with Avery, wrestles with Bennett, and showers me with affection.

In the blink of an eye Avery seems to have grown from a little girl into a mature big kid. She’s enjoying Girl Guides, piano and gymnastics, and will be shredding the gnar starting a ski program in Fernie later this winter. Her favourite mode of transportation is cartwheeling and hand-standing, and as a result her biceps at age nine are comparable to Linda Hamilton’s from Terminator 2. Avery loves to read, draw detailed pictures, recount her boring and impossibly complicated dreams and watch The Amazing Race.

Avery Ford, age nine, grade four. In Vernon, B.C. this past summer.

Avery Ford, age nine, grade four. In Vernon, B.C. this past summer.

For all her growing up though, she’d still rather chase frogs than boys, and give us endless cuddles at bedtime. Can I freeze time? Pretty please?

Bennett has had a big year that included learning to link turns and stop while skiing (without me having to yell, “Pizza! Stop! Turn!” like a crazy lady), becoming more comfortable on his adapted bike, and being granted an amazing wish trip to San Diego by the Rainbow Society of Alberta.

Bennett Ford, age seven, grade two. Dressed as Super Why for Halloween.

Bennett Ford, age seven, grade two. Dressed as Super Why for Halloween.

He went as Super Why for Halloween, which seems to have granted closure on his year-long love affair with Whyatt and the Super Readers. He’s moved on to Dora and, randomly, YouTube videos of Debbie Reynolds singing Tammy. He now shrieks sings Tammy to Piper when she’s in her kennel, which is yet another way he torments the dog. Bennett continues to challenge and surprise us and, while it sometimes seems like there aren’t enough band-aids to help him feel better when his feelings get hurt after a scolding (“Stop holding Piper by her neck, Bennett!”), there’s no better sound than that kid’s belly laugh.

I wish I could report that Blake’s and Avery’s intensive Piper training had cured the dog of eating her own poop. But no. She is still disgusting. We continue to be proud of her actual accomplishments, which include: learning how to climb a ladder, roll over and jump to catch a frisbee in mid-air; being the cutest dog at the dog park; and chasing those ugly black squirrels and annoying magpies that wander into our yard. Piper barks in a high-pitched kind of sissy way when she does this, but we’ll overlook that.

Piper after a mountain bike ride/run at Nose Hill.

Piper after a mountain bike ride/run at Nose Hill.

After a bout of lice, kennel cough and an ear infection this past year I was ready to give Piper away rethink our decision to get a dog, but now that she’s healthy again and I no longer have to pick up turds (because, um, you know… dessert!) I think we’ll keep her.

Lisa (that’s me) has upped her travel game in 2014, thanks to Blake’s more flexible work schedule, and has recently enjoyed press trips to Guadalajara, Whistler and even a short jaunt to Toronto to help judge a Cointreau cocktail competition. Blake and I managed to sneak in three adult trips (cat skiing, Sayulita and San Francisco — don’t go there in July; it’s freezing) as well as family trips to San Diego, Vernon and Dallas. Up next: Costa Rica in 2015!

Enjoying a Mexican sunset in Punta Mita.

Enjoying a Mexican sunset in Punta Mita.

My hypochondriac tendencies continue as I visited the doctor a lot for minor complaints such as an ongoing shoulder injury from Piper’s sled-dog-like pulling tendencies. The upside of this? My goal for this winter is to shovel the sidewalk zero times. I have also started holding my iPhone at arms length to read. Blake insists that I need reading glasses, but I will read the damn device from across the room for spite to prove my unrivalled far-sightedness before I invest in readers, even if they come with hopelessly dorky cool lights on the sides.

We’re looking forward to a relaxing Christmas break with family and friends that includes lots of pow-pow. Happy holidays!

Lockdown practice

Today, nearly two years after a gunman killed 20 children at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut, my daughter’s elementary school in Calgary will practice a lockdown drill. The point of this kind of drill is to teach students and teachers what to do — lock classroom doors, hide, be quiet — in case a disturbed person decides to harm innocent children or their educators inside our neighbourhood school. A constable will be supporting teachers and children with this procedure.

Avery's school is having lockdown practice tomorrow.

Avery’s school is having lockdown practice today.

I asked Avery why they were having lockdown practice. “It’s in case someone comes into the school who shouldn’t be there, or if a wild animal gets in, like a deer. Even though they look nice and tame they’re still wild and could hurt someone,” she said, illustrating the beautiful naiveté of a nine-year-old.

When I was a kid, we didn’t have “Lockdown Practice” at school. My biggest school worries, after securing a good seat on the bus, were not getting picked last at dodge ball and beating Kim Van Eeckhout at death circles on the 1-2-3 bars (where you spin around backwards by your knees for a full revolution without touching your hands to the bar). Oh, and I wasn’t supposed to buy lickum stickers from strangers that showed up at the playground because they might be laced with some kind of poison (a parental euphemism for LSD). It never crossed my mind that someone with a gun would walk into the school and start picking off little kids.

The closest I ever got to “lockdown” was vicariously — through the stories my mom would tell me about the regular tornado drills she and her classmates practiced during elementary school after the air siren started blaring. She grew up in Kansas where, evidently, Wizard-of-Oz-calibre tornados blew through almost weekly.

My mom had to regularly hunker under her desk during regular tornado drills in the 1940s and 50s.

My mom had to hunker under her school desk during regular tornado drills in Kansas during the 1940s and 50s.

I listened to these tales with wonder and envy. Hiding under a desk seemed way more exciting than simply exiting the building like we did during the annual school fire drill.

As I entered junior high, with the spectre of the cold war looming larger than ever, I wondered why we never had Nuclear War drills (it was 1983 — remember The Day After?).

Pretty sure the kid wouldn't be winking and thumbs-upping in real life.

I’m pretty sure this kid wouldn’t be winking and thumbs-upping if this happened in real life.

I never thought I’d be nostalgic for the U.S.S.R, but the iron curtain of the 80s seems to make a friendlier foe than the lone gunman of today. I guess we always suspected the Russians would never push the big red button — they were commies but they fought fair, right? (Surely that explains the lack of World War III lockdown practices?)

In contrast, today’s madman — or bullied, misunderstood youth — can show up anywhere, at any time, and wreak soul-wrenching devastation on the relative peace that described life before his appearance.

I’m sad that this is the reality for my daughter. I’m glad she doesn’t know the real reason they’re going through this drill, but my heart still hurts. As much as I hate the thought of her and her grade four classmates silently locking themselves in Room 13 for an hour this morning — and I loathe the reason they’re doing it — I’d rather her school is prepared in the unlikely event that something akin to the Sandy Hook tragedy should happen here at home.

 

Charlotte’s Web brought to life

When Avery was in grade one I read her Charlotte’s Web as a bedtime story over the course of several weeks. I loved sharing this classic children’s story about friendship with my daughter, and watching her excitement at Wilbur the pig’s triumph (escaping the axe, thanks to the web-spinning efforts of his spider friend), as well as her sadness over Charlotte’s inevitable death (though Avery was happy three of Charlotte’s spider babies decided to live in the Zuckermans’ barn).

Charlottes Web is running at Alberta Theatre Projects through Dec. 31, 2014.

Charlotte’s Web is running through Dec. 31, 2014.

So it was especially satisfying to sit beside Avery and her classmates on a school field trip this week and watch the tale come to life through Alberta Theatre Projects’ production of Charlotte’s Web (running through December 31). What made the experience even more enjoyable was the fact that one of her grade four classmates from Colonel Walker School, RubyJune Bishop, plays Fern Arable, and RubyJune’s parents star in the production as well.

Fern Arable (played by RubyJune Bishop) talks to Wilbur (played by Guillermo Urra). Photo by Calgary Sun.

Fern Arable (played by RubyJune Bishop) talks to Wilbur (played by Guillermo Urra) during a production of Charlotte’s Web. Photo by Calgary Sun.

It was Avery’s first time watching live theatre and she was captivated from the beginning, and even more so when Charlotte, played by the enchanting Manon Beaudoin, first descended down to her web from the barn rafters.

From her web, Charlotte talks to Wilbur for the first time. Photo by Crystal Schick, Calgary Herald.

From her web, Charlotte talks to Wilbur for the first time. Photo by Crystal Schick, Calgary Herald.

“I really like this Mommy!” Avery whispered to me as Charlotte spun mesmerizing circles around her web, spelling the words “Some Pig,” “Terrific,” “Radiant” and “Humble” to describe her bovine friend to save his life while her own was slipping away. Avery also loved “Uncle,” the fat, cowboy-hat wearing, Texan-inspired pig that threatens to take first prize at the fair.

After the performance there was a question-and-answer session between the audience and the actors (the theatre was full of school groups that day). Though the education outreach coordinator never called on anyone from Colonel Walker School, other children asked some great, totally kid, questions:

Avery strains to have her hand noticed during a Q&A session with the Charlotte's Web cast.

Avery strains to have her hand noticed during a Q&A session with the Charlotte’s Web cast.

“Does anyone ever step on your tail?” one student asked Templeton (the rat). “All the time,” he replied.

“Isn’t it scary spinning from that cable?” another asked Charlotte. “At first it was, yes,” she said.  “But then I got used to it. It’s really fun.”

“What’s your favourite part of the play?” someone asked Wilbur. “When I first meet Charlotte and when I do my ‘Radiant’ dance,” he said. This is where he executes the Charleston, the robot and then moon walks to prove that he is, indeed, radiant. It’s one of many funny moments.

“Why did Alberta Theatre Projects choose to do Charlotte’s Web out of all the classic children’s stories?” asked another student. “It reflects our values,” replied the education outreach coordinator.

It is a well done, heart warming story of friendship. And Avery was especially proud to see her friend RubyJune do such an amazing job.